**MEETINGS**
CHAPTER MEETING -
We meet 7:00–8:30 pm on the third Monday of each month.
St. Joseph Parish Community
8701 36th Ave N
New Hope, MN 55427
Corner of 36th Ave N & Boone Ave N
BEREAVED SIBLING GROUP MEETING (14 and older) -
A bereaved sibling facilitates the group. Siblings meet separately, but at the same location and time as our Chapter meeting.
NOW OFFERING
HYBRID MONTHLY MEETINGS
ATTEND IN-PERSON OR VIA ZOOM
We meet 7:00–8:30 pm on the third Monday of each month. Join us:
IN PERSON—St. Joseph Parish Community 8701 36th Ave N., New Hope, MN
We will follow the church’s COVID protocols in effect at time of meeting (masks are recommended, appropriate distancing, hand sanitation, etc.). These will be clearly identified as you enter the church. Bring masks, please. Some will be provided on site if you need them.
VIA ZOOM—Register using the link emailed to you a few days prior to each meeting.
If you are not on our newsletter EMAIL distribution list, you need to email tcf.mpls@gmail.com to request a Zoom meeting invite.
Bereaved Siblings Hybrid Meeting
A bereaved sibling who is a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist facilitates the group. Siblings (14+) meet separately, but at the same time as our Chapter meeting.
M E E T I N G T O P I C S
MONDAY, APRIL 15, 2024 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING- 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
“Opening Up to Deep, Fierce Grief”
So many grieve in silence, hold it in. It HAS to go somewhere.
We will discuss Anderson Cooper’s podcast in which he talks about going through his mother’s stored boxes after her death. This helped him realize that he was opening up hidden boxes of grief, which he had stored away in his head. He’d never really grieved some of his greatest losses.
Grief buried away can rob one of the ability to feel joy. Days are seeped with sadness. On the other hand, opening up to deep, fierce grief acknowledges the loss and provides space for what comes next.
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MONDAY, MARCH 18, 2024 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING- 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
“How to Maintain a Relationship with Your Lost Loved One”
Losing a child, grandchild or sibling can be a heartbreaking experience. We often feel like we have lost the future we had envisioned with them. This session aims to discuss how it can be helpful to maintain a relationship with our loved ones even after they have passed away. It
offers some ideas that may help to fill the void created by their loss.
PAST MEETING TOPICS
MONDAY, FEBRUARY 19, 2024 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING- 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
“Grief Portrayed in Film & Television - Snippets & Lessons”
Please join us for our February 19 meeting where we will share grief and loss learnings from movies and television. Films can be a temporary distraction from our grief, show us that we are not alone, offer perspectives on our complex emotions, and provide us with messages of hope.
MONDAY, JANUARY 15, 2024 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING- 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
“Bringing Light to Winter Gloom”
January sneaks up and leaves us without a sense of direction. The reasons for our gloom may be a natural part of this journey through grief. This period allows us to “hibernate” for a time; it serves its
purpose. Be patient with yourself and remember this might be the time to explore the emptiness of our gloom and find our next steps.
Minneapolis Chapter Candle Lighting Program
December 18, 2023
Sign-in at 6:15 p.m. — Program begins 7:00 p.m.
Our chapter’s annual Remembrance Candle
Lighting program is Monday, December 18
at our meeting location, St. Joseph Parish,
8701 36th Ave. N, New Hope
This event takes the place of the monthly chapter meeting. It begins earlier
than the regular meetings. Parents, grandparents, siblings, family & friends are
encouraged to join us.
Please RSVP in advance! Email tcf.mpls@gmail.com with your name and number attending in your group.
We encourage you to join us in person; there may be the option to watch a live stream of the program via YouTube. We will update you of the status, and if that option is available we will email the YouTube link and post it on the TCF
Minneapolis Chapter’s private Facebook page.
The church where we meet practices COVID-19 health and safety protocols.
Consider wearing a mask based on your personal preference and if not
vaccinated for COVID-19. Please stay home if you feel sick.
At 6:15 p.m. participants may sign in at the front door of the church. The
chapter will provide light appetizers and refreshments prior to the program.
Bring your family’s favorite cookies or bars to share if you wish.
A free-will offering is appreciated to help offset program costs. Memory Keepsakes are
provided which we will personalize with your loved one’s
name. Please take it home as a memento of this special evening.
The remembrance program begins at 7:00 p.m. with beautiful live music
performed by parents and friends in our bereaved community. Readings by
TCF members will be followed by families lighting flameless candles in
memory of our siblings and children and grandchildren. The evening will
conclude with a photo slideshow of our loved ones.
To include your child, grandchild or sibling’s photograph in the slideshow,
please email Gloria Jordan at tcf.mpls@gmail.com. Provide their name as you
wish it to appear on the slide, and the year of their birth and year of death.
Attach a photo as a .jpg or .png file format. The DEADLINE is December 5.
Do not send a photo if you sent one last year; we have it.
Want to participate by reading a poem or prose? Email Gloria at tcf.mpls@gmail.com
with your name and your loved one’s name. Include a copy of the reading with title and author of your selection. The DEADLINE is December 5 to be included in the program.
If severe weather occurs, we will post a change of date for the event on our
TCF Minneapolis chapter Facebook page at www.facebook.com/groups/TCFMpls and
announce the December postponement on Channel KARE11 TV.
MONDAY, NOVEMBER 20, 2023 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING- 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
"Finding Gratitude When Grieving"
When grieving, it can be difficult to find things to be grateful for. Acknowledging the small steps forward can be beneficial. Expressing gratitude can be one way to help in the healing process. We are here to say thank you for showing up.
MONDAY, OCTOBER 16, 2023 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING - 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
"Holidays & Significant Days"
Grief work doesn't take a vacation. The challenge is how to manage the pain. Sometimes anticipation is worse than the actual day. We'll explore ideas and options that may help you navigate these days.
MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 18, 2023 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING- 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
“Elevator Speeches About Your Loved Ones”
Everybody gets asked questions like, “How many kids do you have?” or “Do you have any brothers or sisters?” It is sometimes difficult to know how you want to respond. In this meeting we will try and provide some ideas on how to honor your missed loved ones with a short “Elevator Speech.” We plan to work in small groups talking about your loss and some of the ways your loved ones made such a wonderful impact on the world, allowing you to control the narrative.
MONDAY, AUGUST 21, 2023 - IN-PERSON EVENT - 7:00 PM - 8:30PM
"TCF National Conference Reflections"
Our Chapter Members who attended the recent TCF National Conference in Denver, CO will present their conference experiences. Many workshops and sharing sessions were available for attendees. Join us as our travelers inspire hope as they share tools and insights acquired.
MONDAY, JULY 17, 2023 - IN-PERSON EVENT - 7:00 PM - 8:00PM
“Love Notes, Buckets o' Blooms & Sundae Scoops”
Members, family and friends are invited to our uplifting, annual summer event. Held in-person at our regular meeting place, St Joseph Parish, New Hope. Details on Events page.
MONDAY JUNE 19, 2023 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING - 7:00 PM - 8:30PM
“Zentangle Zen-Doodle—Doodling”
Zentangle® is a combination of no- pressure drawing (structured doodling), meditation and mindfulness. It’s relaxing and relieves stress in a creative non-verbal way. Lauren’s mom, Dawn, will draw us into this “Zen” calm experience.
MONDAY MAY 15, 2023 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING - 7:00 PM - 8:30PM
“When We Love Deeply, We Grieve Deeply”
Guest speaker Kelly Grosklags will talk about the deep grief we feel after losing someone we love, while honoring all grief. We will learn what secondary losses are and how they can be just as difficult to experience.
MONDAY APRIL17, 2023 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING - 7:00 PM - 8:30PM
“Finding Help for a Grieving Heart”
Since grief is different for every person, each individual’s journey is unique. There is a myriad of resources, but how do you find them? This session shares some tools that may help navigate a path forward where pain softens and hope emerges.
MONDAY MARCH 20, 2023 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING - 7:00 PM - 8:30PM
“Opioid Loss Inspires Public Health Legacy”
Opioid overdose remains a leading cause of accidental death in the U.S. Join Julie Bartell & Billy Binder, whose son, Kerry Norrid, died due to an unintentional overdose, along with Alex Larson of the Wilder Foundation who will educate and train members how to help individuals at risk for overdose. Having the knowledge and tools to help could save a life.
MONDAY FEBRUARY 20, 2023 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING - 7:00 PM - 8:30PM
“Using Our 5 Senses to Remember”
When one of our senses is activated, it reminds us of our loved one. Maybe it’s a scent, a song, or seeing a similar vehicle they drove. Remembering is one way to help keep a loved one’s memories alive.
MONDAY JANUARY 16, 2023 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING - 7:00 PM - 8:30PM
“New Hope For A Healing Heart"
Ushering in a new year can stir a painful reminder of another year without our loved one. With a new year also comes the opportunity for renewed hope.
Minneapolis Chapter
Candle Lighting Program
December 19, 2022
Sign-in at 6:15 p.m. — Program begins 7:00 p.m.
Our chapter’s annual Remembrance Candle
Lighting program is Monday, December 19
at our meeting location, St. Joseph Parish,
8701 36th Ave. N, New Hope
This event takes the place of the monthly chapter meeting. It begins earlier
than the regular meetings. Parents, grandparents, siblings, family & friends are
encouraged to join us.
Please RSVP in advance! Email tcf.mpls@gmail.com with your name and number attending in your group.
The church where we meet practices COVID-19 health and safety protocols.
Consider wearing a mask based on your personal preference and if not
vaccinated for COVID-19. Please stay home if you feel sick.
At 6:15 p.m. participants may sign in at the front door of the church. The
chapter will provide light appetizers and refreshments prior to the program.
Bring your family’s favorite cookies or bars to share if you wish.
A free-will offering is appreciated to help offset program costs. Ornaments are
provided (one per household) which we will personalize with your loved one’s
name. Please take the ornament home as a memento of the evening.
The remembrance program begins at 7:00 p.m. with beautiful live music
performed by parents and friends in our bereaved community. Readings by
TCF members will be followed by families lighting flameless candles in
memory of our siblings and children and grandchildren. The evening will
conclude with a photo slideshow of our loved ones.
To include your child, grandchild or sibling’s photograph in the slideshow,
please email Gloria Jordan at tcf.mpls@gmail.com. Provide their name as you
wish it to appear on the slide, and the year of their birth and year of death.
Attach a photo as a .jpg or .png file format. The DEADLINE is December 6.
Do not send a photo if you sent one last year; we have it.
Want to participate by reading a poem or prose? Email Gloria at tcf.mpls@gmail.com
with your name and your loved one’s name. Include a copy of the reading with title and author of your selection. The DEADLINE is December 6 to be included in the program.
If severe weather occurs, we will post a change of date for the event on our
TCF chapter Facebook page at www.facebook.com/groups/TCFMpls and
announce the December postponement on Channel KARE11 TV.
MONDAY NOVEMBER 21, 2022 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING - 7:00 PM - 8:30PM
“Sharing Pages Of Hope"
Do you have a favorite quote, poem, song, article, or book that helped you on your grief journey? It may be something you composed, or by a published author, or from a fellow compassionate friend. Bring it to the meeting and we will share with the group.
OUR GIFT to YOU: At the meeting, you will receive the book, “Healing After Loss,” filled with thoughtful daily readings to inspire, strengthen, and comfort.
MONDAY OCTOBER 17, 2022 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING - 7:00 PM - 8:30PM
“Holidays & Significant Days”
Grief work doesn’t take a vacation. The challenge is how to manage the pain. Sometimes anticipation is worse than the actual day. We’ll explore ideas & options that may help you navigate these days.
MONDAY SEPTEMBER 19, 2022 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING - 7:00 PM - 8:30PM
"Guilt and Regret...Why Our family"
So often guilt, regret and questioning “why” accompanies grief. Join us for our panel discussion on the impacts of guilt, regrets and whys within our grief journey. We provide a physical and emotional space to explore the above topics.
MONDAY, AUGUST 15, 2022 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING - 7:00 PM - 8:30PM
“National Conference Reflections”
Members who attended the recent TCF National Conference will inspire hope as they share tools and insights acquired
MONDAY, JULY 18, 2022 - IN-PERSON EVENT - 7:00 PM - 8:00PM
“Love Notes, Blooms & Sundaes”
Members and family are invited to our uplifting, annual event. Details on Events page. Held in-person at our regular meeting place, St Joseph Parish, New Hope.
MONDAY, JUNE 20, 2022 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING - 7:00 PM - 8:30PM
"Drawn to Create”
Part of this meeting will be a hands-on art project. We’ll try a variety of creative techniques using household items and simple art supplies. Earla will share ways of being gentle with ourselves, with a pencil in our hand. Our Chapter will provide paper & coloring supplies; if you have your own color pencils, markers, watercolor paints, etc., you’re invited to bring them along. Zoom attendees need five 8x10 sheets of paper & coloring supplies handy.
MONDAY, MAY 16 2022 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING - 7:00 PM - 8:30PM
“Show & Share”
Help us get to know your child or sibling. Bring something to share that evokes a special memory...a blankie, toy, trophy, poem, souvenir, etc. Any memento will do, because it provides an opportunity to speak our child’s or sibling’s name.
MONDAY, APRIL 18, 2022 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING - 7:00 PM - 8:30PM
“To the Grievers Before Us”
TCF Minneapolis Chapter will honor previous leaders and steering committee members. Individuals will share the lessons learned from earlier leaders in grieving and growing as lifelong members of the TCF community.
MONDAY, MARCH 21, 2022 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING - 7:00 PM - 8:30PM
“FINDING HOPE THROUGH COMMUNITY”
Carolyn Kinzel, founder of the non-profit Brighter Days Grief Center, will share hopeful ways to make meaningful connections, bring our loved ones memory into community, and recognize goodness along our path to hope.
MONDAY, FEBRUARY 21, 2022 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING - 7:00 PM - 8:30PM
“A CREATIVE PATH TO HEALING”
Linda Hayen will share her grief journey over the past 21 years and the lessons she learned while creating a children’s book in her daughter's memory.
2/21/22 MEETING UPDATE
Based on little or no snowfall expected this early evening (in metro) we will hold our in person meeting along with Zoom option, as scheduled.
MONDAY, JANUARY 17, 2022 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING - 7:00 PM - 8:30PM
“BIRTHDAY WISHES”
With or without cake and candles, we can remember, reminisce, honor, and heal while celebrating our children and sibling's life. Is it possible to find joy as we preserve memories and create ones?
MONDAY, DECEMBER 20, 2021
“CANDLE LIGHTING CEREMONY”
HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) PROGRAM
Our annual CLC takes the place of our regular meeting. Join us in-person or via Zoom for this special evening, including a program, live music, candle lighting, and memorial video. Sign-in begins at 6:30 pm.
Minneapolis Chapter
Remembrance Candle Lighting
Monday, December 20, 2021
Sign-in begins 6:30 p.m. - Program begins 7:00 p.m.
Our chapter’s annual remembrance candle lighting program is Monday, December 20 at our regular meeting location.
St. Joseph Parish
8701 36th Ave. N
New Hope
We will also hold a simultaneous Zoom connect.
This event takes the place of our regular Chapter Meeting. Parents, siblings, grandparents, family and friends are invited to join us.
The church where we meet already practices COVID-19 health and safety protocols. The compassionate staff is eager to assist at our largest annual event honoring our children/grandchildren/siblings.
We need you to RSVP in advance. Email us at tcf.mpls@gmail.com with your name and number attending in your group. Anyone not vaccinated for COVID needs to wear a mask to enter the church building. Unfortunately, because of COVID restrictions this year, we are unable to offer food and refreshments.
At 6:30 p.m. participants may sign-in at the front door of the church. A free-will offering will be appreciated to help offset program costs. Ornaments are provided (one per family) which we will personalize with your child’s name. You may take it home as a memento of the evening.
The remembrance program begins at 7:00 p.m. with beautiful live music performed by parents, friends and families in our bereaved community. Readings by TCF members will be followed by families individually lighting flameless candles in memory of our siblings and our children, grandchildren, nieces and nephews, cousins and friends. The evening will conclude with a photo slideshow presentation of our loved ones who have left too soon.
To include your loved one’s photograph in the slideshow, please email Gloria Jordan at tcf.mpls@gmail.com and reference their name and attach a photo. Send a high quality .jpg for best results. The DEADLINE is December 6. You DO NOT need to send us a photo if you have already sent one in previous years; we still have it.
If you would like to participate in the program by reading a poem or prose, email Gloria at tcf.mpls@gmail.com with your name, your loved one’s name, and the title and author of your selection. The DEADLINE is December 6 to be included in the program.
If the TCF chapter needs to postpone the event due to severe weather or COVID-19 changes, we will post a notice on our TCF chapter Facebook page and announce the change on channel KARE11 TV.
MONDAY, NOVEMBER 15, 2021 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING - 7:00 PM - 8:30PM
“HANDLING THE HOLIDAYS”
The work and pain of grief doesn't take a vacation. The challenge is how to manage the pain. Sometimes the anticipation is worse than the actual day. We'll explore options that may help you make a plan to handle the holidays.
MONDAY, OCTOBER 18, 2021 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING - 7:00 PM - 8:30PM
“FROM LOSS TO LEGACY”
A mother's account of grief, recovery and legacy for the daughter murdered at the hands of her husband.
MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 20, 2021 - HYBRID (In-person & Zoom) MEETING - 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
"PEOPLE SAY THE DARNDEST THINGS"
Share and practice how to respond to misguided or thoughtless comments made in an attempt to acknowledge your grief.
MONDAY, AUGUST 16, 2021 - CHAPTER IN-PERSON MEETING - 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
St. Joseph Parish – 8701 36th Ave North – New Hope MN 55427
(our usual meeting place)
"TOGETHER AT LAST"
"Together at Last" will be a look back on grieving while isolated with COVID-19 restrictions. How did we all get through this?
After a long space on the calendar filled with Zoom meetings, the Minneapolis Chapter of The Compassionate Friends is returning to in-person monthly meetings with an added twist. We meet at St. Joseph Parish Community at 8701 36th Ave North in New Hope, Minnesota on the third Monday of the month from 7:00pm to 8:30pm. We will follow the church’s COVID protocols.
We will also offer a hybrid meeting format to accommodate those who remain connected via Zoom. The Steering Committee is working on our enlightened tech approach. You will see this at the August meeting and we ask for your understanding as we navigate the new format. This is the new us, the club no one wants to join. We welcome you with open arms again, at last.
IMPORTANT: IF YOU ARE NOT ON OUR NEWSLETTER EMAIL DISTRIBUTION LIST, YOU NEED TO EMAIL tcf.mpls@gmail.com TO REQUEST A ZOOM MEETING INVITE. Pre-registration is required via emailed link. (ZOOM instructions below)
MONDAY, JULY 19, 2021 - IN PERSON - 7:00 PM - 8:00 PM
St. Joseph Parish – 8701 36th Ave North – New Hope MN 55427
(our usual meeting place)
"LOVE NOTES, BUBBLES & ICE CREAM SUNDAES"
TCF Minneapolis Chapter invites you to an environmentally healthy summer ritual. Bring friends and extended family members to write notes to the ones we love. We will say their names and place the notes together. We will eat ice cream sundaes and watch bubbles fly around us. This is our time to see family and friends remembering our children and siblings who are not with us physically but remain always in our hearts.
The notes will be recycled after the program. Eventually that composted material will be transferred to a Minneapolis bee and butterfly friendly community garden. Those urban garden flowers provide much needed pollinator habitat for the butterflies around us.
All pandemic health precautions, procedures and safety protocols will be followed.
• This event will take place Rain or Shine!
• The Chapter will provide everything. The event is free, but donations are appreciated at suggested rate, $5 per adult.
• Ice cream sundaes will be prepared and served by masked and gloved event committee members.
• Face coverings are required. If you don't have one, we will provide one. Recommended for all over the age of 2.
• Maintain 6-foot physical distancing from people not in your household, upon arrival and throughout the event.
• Use Hand Sanitizer station upon entering the building.
• Bathrooms will be disinfected between use.
• Please stay home if you are sick.
RSVP with your name and number attending. Extended family is invited. Email tcf.mpls@gmail.com, or call or text our chapter phone line, (612) 444-1301, to RSVP or ask any questions you may have. Please respond by July 14th.
MONDAY, JUNE 21, 2021 - CHAPTER "VIRTUAL" MEETING VIA ZOOM - 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
"THEN AND NOW"
Time and grieving changes a person’s perspective. Questions asked in the first year, with the same questions asked years later will elicit different responses. That is the measure of healing one sees with time. TCF presenters will show how hurting parents and siblings heal in time. Members will add their reflections or thoughts during the presentation and later in small groups.
MONDAY, MAY 17, 2021 - CHAPTER "VIRTUAL" MEETING VIA ZOOM - 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
"WE ALL GRIEVE DIFFERENTLY"
Often, we wonder why people don’t understand our grief. Often, we don’t understand someone else’s grief. Parents don’t grieve the same, nor do siblings, or grandparents. Why do we expect them all to grieve like we do? This discussion will allow us to better understand not only our own grief but that of others.
MONDAY, APRIL 19, 2021 - CHAPTER "VIRTUAL" MEETING VIA ZOOM - 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
"'MOVING' THROUGH GRIEF"
When you are grieving, the physical and emotional pain can stop you in your tracks. In this meeting, we will share some ideas to incorporate more movement into our lives to help us in our grief journey.
MONDAY, MARCH 15, 2021 - CHAPTER "VIRTUAL" MEETING VIA ZOOM - 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
"HEALING POWERS OF NATURE"
Connecting with nature can have a healing quality. Our natural surroundings provide us a path towards some peace, solitude and distraction from our pain.
MONDAY, FEBRUARY 15, 2021 - CHAPTER "VIRTUAL" MEETING VIA ZOOM - 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
"COMPANIONS IN GRIEF"
Many people credit “pet therapy” with helping cope with grief. Animals provide unconditional love and non-judgmental support. Caring for companions with fur, fins, or feathers may offer a welcome, purposeful distraction.
MONDAY, JANUARY 18, 2021 - CHAPTER "VIRTUAL" MEETING VIA ZOOM - 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
"HOPE FOR THE NEW YEAR"
Beginning a new year offers a new perspective, with the possibility of renewed hope.
MONDAY, DECEMBER 21, 2020 : 7:00 PM - 8:00 PM
*VIRTUAL CANDLE LIGHTING REMEMBRANCE PROGRAM" UPDATED 12-19-2020
Join us Monday, December 21, 7 p.m. for our annual Minneapolis Chapter Virtual Candle Lighting Remembrance Program. We'll gather online to light a candle so that our children, grandchildren, and siblings' light will always shine. Even though we can't be together in person, this year's virtual event will still be a heartfelt, touching tribute, including music, readings, candle lighting, and the slide show remembering our children, grandchildren, and siblings.
There are two ways to watch; via Zoom platform, and through a YouTube link. Both presentations are identical, as the leadership team pre-recorded the program. We held all of you in our hearts as we read your selections, and performed meaningful music selections.
ZOOM: You will receive an email with the link to Pre-Register for the Zoom event. Similar process as our monthly Zoom meetings. Zoom instructions will be included if you need them. After pre-registering, you will receive an email Confirmation with the link to join the Zoom event. Make sure you join the Zoom meeting early, and be ready for the video program to begin Monday at 7 pm. We will share the Candle Lighting video to your screen. During the video portion, attendees will not be seen, and will be muted. After the program ends, we will keep the Zoom meeting open for about 45 minutes if any members wish to remain online to visit, greet new members, and offer and receive support. We encourage you to attend via Zoom to help create a community of understanding and hope. You may share the Pre-Registration email with family and close friends, but in order to maintain our privacy, please do not share publicly.
YouTube: Our Candle Lighting video will be available to watch on YouTube. An email with a link will be sent Sunday night. You will click on the link and our YouTube video will open in your browser. To maintain our group's privacy, the YouTube video will be "Unlisted" and available only by using the link we provide you. You may share with family and close friends, but DO NOT share the link on public social media such as Facebook. The link will be active from Monday, 12/21, 6:45 pm through Wednesday, 12/23, 9:00 am.
Attached is the program for our Candle Lighting Program of Remembrance. You may print a copy if you wish to follow along during the event. Please let us know if you have any questions!
IMPORTANT: WATCH YOUR EMAIL FOR DETAILS AND INSTRUCTIONS. IF YOU ARE NOT ON OUR NEWSLETTER EMAIL DISTRIBUTION LIST, YOU NEED TO EMAIL tcf.mpls@gmail.com TO REQUEST A ZOOM MEETING INVITE. Pre-registration is required via emailed link.
POSTED 12-2-2020: Candle Lighting Remembrance
As the COVID-19 situation evolves alongside current mandates, we remain committed to our members' well-being. We have made the difficult decision to offer our Minneapolis Chapter's annual Candle Lighting Remembrance Program as a virtual event only, instead of in-person as originally planned.
Our Candle Lighting program will be available for our members and families to participate online through a private, secure YouTube link, our private Facebook group, and Zoom. By offering several viewing options, we hope to make it easy for everyone to attend virtually on Monday, December 21, 7:00 - 8:00 pm. Watch your email around December 16 for our Zoom invite, and YouTube link to the online event.
The church where we normally meet is providing the space to conduct our program with only the event team present, following coronavirus health protocols. With their expertise, using their updated multi-camera and sound system, we will record our candle lighting program. We are extremely grateful for their compassionate willingness to assist in bringing this special annual event to our members. The program includes readings, beautiful live vocals and instrumental music, the remembrance slideshow, and candle lighting...all the elements to create a meaningful and hope-filled event honoring our children, grandchildren, and siblings.
REMINDER: December 6 is the deadline to submit your loved one's photo for the slideshow. Email Mary Jo Peterson MJPSEW@AOL.COM a high resolution jpg, and reference your loved one's name as you wish it to appear. You do not need to send one if you have submitted a photo in recent years, we still have it.
December 6 is the deadline to submit a reading for consideration. An event team member will read it for you during the program. Reply to this email with your name, your child/grandchild/sibling's name, title and author's name, along with the reading.
We hope you will join us online December 21 for our annual gathering remembering our precious children, grandchildren, and siblings. As the date gets closer, watch your email for links and instructions to attend virtually. It you’re not on our newsletter email distribution list, please send an email to TCF.mpls.editor@gmail.com to request the link to the event. Don’t hesitate to ask us any questions!
Candle Lighting Remembrance
Program
MONDAY, NOVEMBER 16, 2020 - CHAPTER "VIRTUAL" MEETING VIA ZOOM - 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
"HANDLING THE HOLIDAYS"
Make a plan for navigating the holidays while grieving, coupled with pandemic restrictions and isolation. Seasoned grievers will share what helped them in their early years of grief.
MONDAY, OCTOBER 19, 2020 - CHAPTER "VIRTUAL" MEETING VIA ZOOM - 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
"HOW OUR LOVED ONE LIVED THEIR BEST LIFE"
Join us to share stories of your loved ones—their amazing abilities, escapades, adventures and experiences that continue to touch so many.
MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 21, 2020 - CHAPTER "VIRTUAL" MEETING VIA ZOOM - 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
"JOURNALING"
Journaling is one way to cope with grief. A tool to remember special kindnesses, dreams and express the ups and downs. Pages become mile markers over time as the expression of grief changes. Presentation and discussion on Journaling, then small groups (with a separate group for siblings).
MONDAY, AUGUST 17, 2020 - CHAPTER "VIRTUAL" MEETING VIA ZOOM - 7:00 PM - 8:00 PM
"HOW ARE WE TODAY"
We will check in with each other in large group, then move into small groups, with a separate group for siblings.
MONDAY, JULY 20, 2020 - CHAPTER IN-PERSON EVENT - 7:00 PM to 8:00 PM
(at our usual meeting place: St. Joseph Parish Community, 8701 36th Ave N, New Hope, MN)
We're excited to invite you to our IN-PERSON event!
A new ritual will replace the balloon release, followed by our popular Ice Cream Sundae Bar (no picnic dinner this summer).
All pandemic health precautions, procedures and safety protocols will be followed.
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This event will take place Rain or Shine!
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The Chapter will provide everything. The Event is free, but donations are always appreciated.
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Ice cream sundaes will be prepared and served by masked and gloved event committee members.
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Face coverings are required. If you don't have one, we will provide one. Recommended for all over the age of 2.
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Maintain 6-foot physical distancing from people not in your household, upon arrival and throughout the event.
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Use Hand Sanitizer station upon entering the building.
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Bathrooms will be disinfected between use.
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Please stay home if you are sick.
Please RSVP with your name and number attending. Extended family is invited. Reply to tcf.mpls.editor@gmail.com ; or Call or Text our Chapter phone line, (612) 444-1301, to RSVP or with questions.
MONDAY, JUNE 15, 2020 - CHAPTER "VIRTUAL" MEETING VIA ZOOM - 7:00 PM to 8:00 PM
"BUCKET 'O BLOOMS”
This is a long-standing favorite activity of our members. When meeting in-person, we set out a bucket of blooms, then each person is invited to pick a flower, and share why that flower reminds them of their child / grandchild / sibling.
Here's what we'd like you to do before next Monday's meeting...
Set your imagination free...what flower reminds you of your child / grandchild / sibling? ...the color of her/his bedroom, your birthday bouquet she/he thoughtfully "borrowed" from the neighbor's garden...something is sure to whisper to you. Pick a flower from your (or neighbor's) garden, grab a bouquet at the grocery store, find a photo on the internet (search images on bing.com), draw a flower, or load an image to your smartphone.
During the meeting on Monday evening, we'll have a virtual "show and tell." You will share your bloom and a short story. We will enjoy hearing your child, grandchild or sibling's name, and smile at the memory the flower invokes.
We can't wait to stroll through our community garden of memories. Watch your email in the next couple days for the ZOOM email invite. We hope to "see" you soon!
IMPORTANT: IF YOU ARE NOT ON OUR NEWSLETTER EMAIL DISTRIBUTION LIST, YOU NEED TO EMAIL tcf.mpls@gmail.com TO REQUEST A ZOOM MEETING INVITE.
Pre-registration is required via emailed link.
MONDAY, MAY 18, 2020 - CHAPTER "VIRTUAL" MEETING VIA ZOOM - 7:00 PM to 8:00 PM
Until we can meet again in person, we are offering ZOOM video meetings as our Chapter monthly meetings. We are hosting one-hour virtual "General Discussion" monthly meetings, similar to our in-person monthly meeting format. After the large group portion, we will divide into small group breakout rooms, with a separate group breakout room for siblings.
* Watch your email for our ZOOM virtual meeting invite.
IMPORTANT: IF YOU ARE NOT ON OUR NEWSLETTER EMAIL DISTRIBUTION LIST, YOU NEED TO EMAIL tcf.mpls@gmail.com TO REQUEST A ZOOM MEETING INVITE.
* Register in advance by simply clicking on the link in our invite email.
* A follow-up confirmation email will be sent with link, meeting ID and
password you will use to attend.
Please refer to "Instructions For ZOOM Virtual Meeting" PDF document below.
Instructions for Zoom
Virtual Meeting
MONDAY, APRIL 20, 2020 - CHAPTER *VIRTUAL* MEETING VIA ZOOM - 7:00 PM to 8:00 PM
"ISOLATION IN GRIEF”
After the loss of a loved one, we tend to isolate ourselves from others for many different reasons. Maybe we don’t want to be a bother, or we’re afraid others will be uncomfortable around us, or maybe we feel we must be strong and take this grief journey alone. For whatever reason, grief can be a very lonely and secluded experience. Add to this our current situation of “physical distancing,” and those feelings of loneliness and isolation can become very intense.
***Please see documents below for ZOOM instructions and meeting invitation***
Instructions for ZOOM Virtual Meeting
Invite to Zoom Virtual Meeting
MONDAY, MARCH 16, 2020 - CANCELLED
"JOURNALING"
A journal entry is a private space to record a day in your life. Pages become mile markers over time as the expression of grief changes. Seasoned grievers will share impressions of how journaling helped them along their journeys.
MONDAY, FEBRUARY 17, 2020
"PEOPLE SAY THE DARNDEST THINGS"
How have we responded to situations and questions that might be awkward or
uncomfortable? How have you dealt with...? What have you said when...?
MONDAY, JANUARY 20, 2020
“SEEING OUR WAY TO HOPE IN THE NEW YEAR”
A day on the calendar invites us to begin a new year with resolutions inspiring us to do and be better. For bereaved parents, grandparents and siblings, a new day means another day without our loved one. We begin to treasure memories thru tears. One minute or day at a time, yesterday’s memories will inspire today’s smiles, leading to tomorrow’s hope.
MONDAY, DECEMBER 16, 2019
“CANDLE LIGHTING PROGRAM”
Join us for our annual, special remembrance program which takes the place of our regular meeting. Sign-in begins at 6 pm.
Minneapolis Chapter
Remembrance Candle Lighting
Monday, December 16, 2019
Social Hour begins at 6:00 p.m. Program begins 7:00 p.m.
Our chapter’s annual remembrance candle lighting program is Monday, December 16 at our regular meeting location.
St. Joseph Parish
8701 36th Ave. N
New Hope
This event takes the place of our regular Chapter Meeting. Parents, siblings, grandparents, family
and friends are invited to join us.
The evening begins at 6:00 pm with sign-in at the front door; social time begins with refreshments, apple cider and coffee until 7:00 pm. A free-will offering will be appreciated to help offset the costs. Ornaments are provided (one per family) which we will personalize with your child’s name. You may hang it on the memory tree and afterwards, take home as a memento.
The remembrance candle lighting program begins at 7:00 p.m. with beautiful music as well as readings by our members, followed by lighting of candles in remembrance of our children, grandchildren, and siblings. The evening will conclude with our photo presentation.
To include your child/grandchild/sibling’s photograph in the slide show, please email a photograph to Steve at sch2450@hotmail.com. Send a high quality .jpg for best results. The DEADLINE is December 1. You DO NOT need to send us a photo of your child if you have already sent one in previous years; we still have it.
If you would like to participate in the program by reading a poem or prose, email Gloria at tcf.mpls.editor@gmail.com with your name, the title and author of your selection. The DEADLINE is December 1 to be included in the program.
This is our largest event honoring our children, grandchildren, and siblings. We would appreciate your help! If you are able, come early to set up or stay after to help clean up. You may donate your family’s favorite sweet or savory FINGER FOODS, fruit or veggie tray, crackers or cheese, cookies, bars, or apple cider. To lend a hand, sign up at our November 18 meeting or call Carol at 763-542-8528.
If we need to postpone due to severe weather, we will post a notice on our Chapter Facebook page and channel KARE11.
MONDAY, NOVEMBER 18, 2019
“HANDLING THE HOLIDAYS”
Holidays can magnify our loss. The work and pain of grief doesn’t take a vacation. Sometimes the anticipation is worse than the actual day. Seasoned grievers will share ideas, and together we’ll explore options.
MONDAY, OCTOBER 21, 2019
"MOVING FROM LOSS TO LEGACY"
Mitch Carmody, grief educator & bereaved dad, will inspire and encourage us to grieve our loss, reclaim the future and participate in life again. Let our loved one’s legacy live on through us and they will live forever.
Mitch’s son Kelly died from a brain tumor in 1987, and 2 years before that, Mitch’s twin sister and her two young sons died in a car accident.
As bereaved dad and sibling, Mitch has dedicated his life to serving the bereaved and helping those lost find hope, and those in the dark find light. A Grief Educator, Author, and Artist, Mitch is the author of Letters to My Son, he hosts his own radio show “Grief Chat,” and he created the YouTube channel, Mr. Heartlight which supports grievers around the world. All this for those who grieve and mourn; for those who have lost all hope, or feel stuck in their life; who seek to become an intentional survivor; and for those who want to leave a legacy of love.
With his insight, Mitch will encourage us to substantiate our child, grandchild, and sibling’s life by the way we live ours. This will let their legacy live on through us and they will live forever. This not only keeps our loved one alive, it heals our heart. www.heartlightstudios.net
SPECIAL EVENT
SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 29, 2019
"MINNEAPOLIS CHAPTER WALK TO REMEMBER"
Mark your calendar for Sunday, September 29 for our annual Chapter Walk to Remember. We walk to remember our children, siblings, and grandchildren who have died. Invite extended family and friends to join us.
This is our Chapter’s annual fund raiser. There is no fee to walk, but donations are appreciated. We are a recognized 501(c)(3) organization; all donations are tax deductible. Funds received are used to support our chapter’s many activities that assist families after the death of a child.
Join us at beautiful Bassett Creek Community Park in Crystal, (same park as last year). The official park address is 6001 32nd Ave. N, between Douglas Dr. N and Hwy 100. See our Walk location instructions below:
WALK LOCATION INSTRUCTIONS: IMPORTANT - Do NOT use the park entrance off 32nd Ave N. near the ballfield. Turn south off 32nd Ave N. onto Welcome Ave., then turn right, towards the parking area off Welcome Ave., near the playground. Meet at the picnic shelter near the parking lot, just down the asphalt trail.
Check-in begins at Noon; we’ll start the walk at 12:30. It’s just a quick, less than 1-mile jaunt around the pond on an asphalt trail, but we can go around as many times as you want.
Invite family and friends to join us for friendship and healing. It’s heart-warming to see a family wearing matching t-shirts; others brought balloons pinned to their shirts that “lifted” their shoulders. This scenic venue offers free parking, picnic shelters, disc golf, volleyball, a memorial garden with benches, a new playground area, dog park, and more.
We will carry the names of our children on bibs provided by the chapter. If you are unable to join us, please submit your child’s name and someone will be honored to carry your child with us on our walk (email your child’s name to tcf.mpls@gmail.com).
THE COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS MINNEAPOLIS 2019 WALK TO REMEMBER
is also a fundraiser to aid our mission. Participants are encouraged to
seek donations that will go to our Minneapolis Chapter to support outreach
and Chapter activities. The attached PDF file is a form to record donations
collected, then bring with you to the walk. Any amount helps!
MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 16, 2019
“MAKING ROOM IN OUR HOME & HEART”
Su-Yoon Ko is a professional organizer and feng shui practitioner whose work specializing in bereavement organizing naturally led her to becoming a certified End-of-Life Douala and Advance Care Planner.
“We want to help you honor and remember your loved one, while letting go of the need to hold on to every object, especially if they do not fit you or your life’s goals. I can’t imagine your loved one would want to burden you with something you don’t use or love.“
In her talk, Su-Yoon will explore different ways to define clutter, along with ideas on how to navigate the belongings of our deceased child, grandchild, or sibling. Keep in mind: There is no right or wrong for when or how to let things go; it depends on what is right for you. A good place to start...give yourself permission to let thing go.
www.DeclutteringKey.com www.facebook.com/AmethystLightEOL
MONDAY, AUGUST 19, 2019
"SIBLING PANEL"
Maggie Bauer, Certified Grief Recovery Specialist and Compassionate Friends sibling, will facilitate a sibling panel - Helping Parents Understand Surviving Siblings’ Grief. These siblings will share their feelings and answer questions in a quest to help parents and siblings to reopen the door to communication. Parents and grandparents will be able to ask questions that they only wish they could ask their surviving child(ren). Listening to a panel of siblings gives parents and grandparents an inside look at what their surviving child(ren) may be thinking and feeling.
Maggie will take a few moments to share highlights from the 42nd Compassionate Friends Conference in Philadelphia.
MONDAY, JULY 15, 2019 -
BALLOON RELEASE & PICNIC
PLEASE NOTE EARLIER START TIME OF 6:00 PM
Members and extended family are invited to join us for our annual Balloon Release and Picnic ceremony on Monday, July 15 at 6:00 pm. This event will take place at our regular meeting location and will be in lieu of our regular meeting. Dinner will be first, followed by the balloon release. This event will take place rain or shine. We will dine indoors.
Experience a release of grief as we send our balloons into the sky. It's a powerful symbolic image, lifting our pain as we watch the balloons dance out of sight.
The Chapter will provide all the food, all you need to bring is your beverage. A donation will be appreciated to help with expenses: suggested $5/person, 10 & under free.
We would appreciate a few volunteers to arrive early to help set up and/or stay after to help clean up.
If July is a Remembrance month for you, please bring a memento or photo to display on the Remembrance Table.
Information also available on the Events Page.
MONDAY, JUNE 17, 2019
“Bucket of Blooms” - We’ll pick a fresh flower from a bucket of blooms and share why that flower reminds us of our child. A favorite activity and an opportunity to share our child’s name.
MONDAY, MAY 20, 2019
“Mindfulness” - Awareness of our self and our surroundings helps us stay grounded in the present moment. Simple exercises of mindfulness increase awareness, acceptance, and expression of feelings which can help healyour heart and mind.
MONDAY, APRIL 15, 2019
“Rituals and Traditions” - We’ll discuss the purpose and importance of establishing rituals and traditions that we can use to remember our children. Many examples will be given and there will be time to share the rituals and traditions that have been a comfort to you on your grief journey.
MONDAY, MARCH 18, 2019
“Grief Within the Family” - Although the loss is shared, communication styles, family structure, and previous loss experienced are issues that may surround the death of a child, grandchild, and sibling across three generations.
MONDAY, FEBRUARY 18, 2019
“Do Men & Women Grieve Differently?" - Doer/thinker? Extrovert/introvert? Also, previous loss, personality, and relationship with the deceased all play into how we ex-press grief. Men and women will meet separately in small groups.
MONDAY, JANUARY 21, 2019 -
"Choice Points In Your Grief" - (Topic based on an article by bereaved parent, Darcie Sims, PhD.)
Early in grief, basic choices allow us to function in spite of being in a fog. As grief progresses, our choices become more complex. Can we choose to remember joy before pain; let go of sorrow to make room for love; remember their life, not just the death?
MONDAY, DECEMBER 17, 2018 -
"Candle Lighting Program" - Join us for our annual, special remembrance program which takes the place of our regular meeting. Sign-in begins at 6 pm. Please see Events tab for more information.
MONDAY, NOVEMBER 19, 2018 -
"Handling the Holidays" - Holidays can magnify our loss. The work and pain of grief doesn’t take a vacation. Sometimes the anticipation is worse than the actual day. Seasoned grievers will share ideas, and together we’ll explore options and make a plan to survive.
MONDAY, OCTOBER 15, 2018 -
"Collage - the Art of Healing" - Sue Reed Crouse, bereaved mom, artist and poet demonstrates how she honors her daughter's legacy through collage. (rescheduled from February)
***SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 23, 2018 SPECIAL EVENT***
"Walk to Remember" - Please see Events tab for details of this popular, special event for family and friends.
MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 17, 2018 -
"Angels Across the USA Tour Special Guest Speaker: Alan Pedersen" - Bereaved Dad and nationally recognized grief spokesperson, Alan will share his music and a message of encouragement and hope.
We are thrilled to announce we are hosting Alan Pedersen as our guest presenter at our September 17 meeting. We are honored to be one of his stops on his 2018 "Angels Across the USA" tour, appearing at over 100 cities.
Alan is the father of Ashley, who died in a car accident in 2001. Alan will share what he has learned on his own grief journey and from the thousands of other grievers who have shared their stories of loss, pain, hope, and healing with him. He combines his acclaimed music with a gentle mix of humor and straight-from-the-heart talk. This inspirational event will be a mixture of learning and laughing, with a mission to offer comfort, hope, and encouragement.
During the last few years, Alan put his presentation tour on hold as he was the Executive Director for The Compassionate Friends.
His music is very popular with bereaved people and organizations around the world. You may have heard some of his songs, as our Chapter has included Alan’s songs during our candle lighting and balloon release events.
Powerful songs about love and loss, and a down-to-earth message are the hallmark of an evening with Alan Pedersen! Anyone who has the opportunity to be a part of his “Angels Across the USA” tour will find a unique, healing, and memorable experience.
Bereaved parents, grandparents, family, friends, and siblings (age 14+) are invited to join us Monday, September 17, 2018, 7 p.m.-9 p.m. Please contact us for more information or with questions. tcf.mpls@gmail.com or (612) 444-1301
MONDAY, AUGUST 20, 2018 -
"National Conference Highlights" - Members who attended the recent National Conference will reflect on their experiences from attending activities and workshops. What did they take away to give us hope and healing?