CHAPTER MEETING -
We meet 7:00–8:30 pm on the third Monday of each month.
St. Joseph Parish Community
8701 36th Ave N
New Hope, MN 55427
Corner of 36th Ave N & Boone Ave N
BEREAVED SIBLING GROUP MEETING (14 and older) -
A bereaved sibling facilitates the group. Siblings meet separately, but at the same location and time as our Chapter meeting.
IMPORTANT MEETING CHANGE
We are offering monthly ZOOM meetings.
We have to plan month by month. We are hosting virtual meetings, similar to our in-person monthly meeting format. After the large group portion, we divide into small group breakout rooms (with a separate group for siblings).
See ZOOM instructions below.
MONDAY, JANUARY 18, 2021 - CHAPTER "VIRTUAL" MEETING VIA ZOOM - 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
"HOPE FOR THE NEW YEAR"
Beginning a new year offers a new perspective, with the possibility of renewed hope.
MONDAY, DECEMBER 21, 2020 : 7:00 PM - 8:00 PM
*VIRTUAL CANDLE LIGHTING REMEMBRANCE PROGRAM" UPDATED 12-19-2020
Join us Monday, December 21, 7 p.m. for our annual Minneapolis Chapter Virtual Candle Lighting Remembrance Program. We'll gather online to light a candle so that our children, grandchildren, and siblings' light will always shine. Even though we can't be together in person, this year's virtual event will still be a heartfelt, touching tribute, including music, readings, candle lighting, and the slide show remembering our children, grandchildren, and siblings.
There are two ways to watch; via Zoom platform, and through a YouTube link. Both presentations are identical, as the leadership team pre-recorded the program. We held all of you in our hearts as we read your selections, and performed meaningful music selections.
ZOOM: You will receive an email with the link to Pre-Register for the Zoom event. Similar process as our monthly Zoom meetings. Zoom instructions will be included if you need them. After pre-registering, you will receive an email Confirmation with the link to join the Zoom event. Make sure you join the Zoom meeting early, and be ready for the video program to begin Monday at 7 pm. We will share the Candle Lighting video to your screen. During the video portion, attendees will not be seen, and will be muted. After the program ends, we will keep the Zoom meeting open for about 45 minutes if any members wish to remain online to visit, greet new members, and offer and receive support. We encourage you to attend via Zoom to help create a community of understanding and hope. You may share the Pre-Registration email with family and close friends, but in order to maintain our privacy, please do not share publicly.
YouTube: Our Candle Lighting video will be available to watch on YouTube. An email with a link will be sent Sunday night. You will click on the link and our YouTube video will open in your browser. To maintain our group's privacy, the YouTube video will be "Unlisted" and available only by using the link we provide you. You may share with family and close friends, but DO NOT share the link on public social media such as Facebook. The link will be active from Monday, 12/21, 6:45 pm through Wednesday, 12/23, 9:00 am.
Attached is the program for our Candle Lighting Program of Remembrance. You may print a copy if you wish to follow along during the event. Please let us know if you have any questions!
IMPORTANT: WATCH YOUR EMAIL FOR DETAILS AND INSTRUCTIONS. IF YOU ARE NOT ON OUR NEWSLETTER EMAIL DISTRIBUTION LIST, YOU NEED TO EMAIL TO REQUEST A ZOOM MEETING INVITE. Pre-registration is required via emailed link.
POSTED 12-2-2020: Candle Lighting Remembrance
As the COVID-19 situation evolves alongside current mandates, we remain committed to our members' well-being. We have made the difficult decision to offer our Minneapolis Chapter's annual Candle Lighting Remembrance Program as a virtual event only, instead of in-person as originally planned.
Our Candle Lighting program will be available for our members and families to participate online through a private, secure YouTube link, our private Facebook group, and Zoom. By offering several viewing options, we hope to make it easy for everyone to attend virtually on Monday, December 21, 7:00 - 8:00 pm. Watch your email around December 16 for our Zoom invite, and YouTube link to the online event.
The church where we normally meet is providing the space to conduct our program with only the event team present, following coronavirus health protocols. With their expertise, using their updated multi-camera and sound system, we will record our candle lighting program. We are extremely grateful for their compassionate willingness to assist in bringing this special annual event to our members. The program includes readings, beautiful live vocals and instrumental music, the remembrance slideshow, and candle lighting...all the elements to create a meaningful and hope-filled event honoring our children, grandchildren, and siblings.
REMINDER: December 6 is the deadline to submit your loved one's photo for the slideshow. Email Mary Jo Peterson a high resolution jpg, and reference your loved one's name as you wish it to appear. You do not need to send one if you have submitted a photo in recent years, we still have it.
December 6 is the deadline to submit a reading for consideration. An event team member will read it for you during the program. Reply to this email with your name, your child/grandchild/sibling's name, title and author's name, along with the reading.
We hope you will join us online December 21 for our annual gathering remembering our precious children, grandchildren, and siblings. As the date gets closer, watch your email for links and instructions to attend virtually. It you’re not on our newsletter email distribution list, please send an email to to request the link to the event. Don’t hesitate to ask us any questions!
Candle Lighting Remembrance
PAST MEETING TOPICS
MONDAY, NOVEMBER 16, 2020 - CHAPTER "VIRTUAL" MEETING VIA ZOOM - 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
"HANDLING THE HOLIDAYS"
Make a plan for navigating the holidays while grieving, coupled with pandemic restrictions and isolation. Seasoned grievers will share what helped them in their early years of grief.
MONDAY, OCTOBER 19, 2020 - CHAPTER "VIRTUAL" MEETING VIA ZOOM - 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
"HOW OUR LOVED ONE LIVED THEIR BEST LIFE"
Join us to share stories of your loved ones—their amazing abilities, escapades, adventures and experiences that continue to touch so many.
MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 21, 2020 - CHAPTER "VIRTUAL" MEETING VIA ZOOM - 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM
Journaling is one way to cope with grief. A tool to remember special kindnesses, dreams and express the ups and downs. Pages become mile markers over time as the expression of grief changes. Presentation and discussion on Journaling, then small groups (with a separate group for siblings).
MONDAY, AUGUST 17, 2020 - CHAPTER "VIRTUAL" MEETING VIA ZOOM - 7:00 PM - 8:00 PM
"HOW ARE WE TODAY"
We will check in with each other in large group, then move into small groups, with a separate group for siblings.
MONDAY, JULY 20, 2020 - CHAPTER IN-PERSON EVENT - 7:00 PM to 8:00 PM
(at our usual meeting place: St. Joseph Parish Community, 8701 36th Ave N, New Hope, MN)
We're excited to invite you to our IN-PERSON event!
A new ritual will replace the balloon release, followed by our popular Ice Cream Sundae Bar (no picnic dinner this summer).
All pandemic health precautions, procedures and safety protocols will be followed.
This event will take place Rain or Shine!
The Chapter will provide everything. The Event is free, but donations are always appreciated.
Ice cream sundaes will be prepared and served by masked and gloved event committee members.
Face coverings are required. If you don't have one, we will provide one. Recommended for all over the age of 2.
Maintain 6-foot physical distancing from people not in your household, upon arrival and throughout the event.
Use Hand Sanitizer station upon entering the building.
Bathrooms will be disinfected between use.
Please stay home if you are sick.
Please RSVP with your name and number attending. Extended family is invited. Reply to ; or Call or Text our Chapter phone line, (612) 444-1301, to RSVP or with questions.
MONDAY, JUNE 15, 2020 - CHAPTER "VIRTUAL" MEETING VIA ZOOM - 7:00 PM to 8:00 PM
"BUCKET 'O BLOOMS”
This is a long-standing favorite activity of our members. When meeting in-person, we set out a bucket of blooms, then each person is invited to pick a flower, and share why that flower reminds them of their child / grandchild / sibling.
Here's what we'd like you to do before next Monday's meeting...
Set your imagination free...what flower reminds you of your child / grandchild / sibling? ...the color of her/his bedroom, your birthday bouquet she/he thoughtfully "borrowed" from the neighbor's garden...something is sure to whisper to you. Pick a flower from your (or neighbor's) garden, grab a bouquet at the grocery store, find a photo on the internet (search images on bing.com), draw a flower, or load an image to your smartphone.
During the meeting on Monday evening, we'll have a virtual "show and tell." You will share your bloom and a short story. We will enjoy hearing your child, grandchild or sibling's name, and smile at the memory the flower invokes.
We can't wait to stroll through our community garden of memories. Watch your email in the next couple days for the ZOOM email invite. We hope to "see" you soon!
IMPORTANT: IF YOU ARE NOT ON OUR NEWSLETTER EMAIL DISTRIBUTION LIST, YOU NEED TO EMAIL TO REQUEST A ZOOM MEETING INVITE.
Pre-registration is required via emailed link.
MONDAY, MAY 18, 2020 - CHAPTER "VIRTUAL" MEETING VIA ZOOM - 7:00 PM to 8:00 PM
Until we can meet again in person, we are offering ZOOM video meetings as our Chapter monthly meetings. We are hosting one-hour virtual "General Discussion" monthly meetings, similar to our in-person monthly meeting format. After the large group portion, we will divide into small group breakout rooms, with a separate group breakout room for siblings.
* Watch your email for our ZOOM virtual meeting invite.
IMPORTANT: IF YOU ARE NOT ON OUR NEWSLETTER EMAIL DISTRIBUTION LIST, YOU NEED TO EMAIL TO REQUEST A ZOOM MEETING INVITE.
* Register in advance by simply clicking on the link in our invite email.
* A follow-up confirmation email will be sent with link, meeting ID and
password you will use to attend.
Please refer to "Instructions For ZOOM Virtual Meeting" PDF document below.
Instructions for Zoom
MONDAY, APRIL 20, 2020 - CHAPTER *VIRTUAL* MEETING VIA ZOOM - 7:00 PM to 8:00 PM
"ISOLATION IN GRIEF”
After the loss of a loved one, we tend to isolate ourselves from others for many different reasons. Maybe we don’t want to be a bother, or we’re afraid others will be uncomfortable around us, or maybe we feel we must be strong and take this grief journey alone. For whatever reason, grief can be a very lonely and secluded experience. Add to this our current situation of “physical distancing,” and those feelings of loneliness and isolation can become very intense.
***Please see documents below for ZOOM instructions and meeting invitation***
Instructions for ZOOM Virtual Meeting
Invite to Zoom Virtual Meeting
MONDAY, MARCH 16, 2020 - CANCELLED
A journal entry is a private space to record a day in your life. Pages become mile markers over time as the expression of grief changes. Seasoned grievers will share impressions of how journaling helped them along their journeys.
MONDAY, FEBRUARY 17, 2020
"PEOPLE SAY THE DARNDEST THINGS"
How have we responded to situations and questions that might be awkward or
uncomfortable? How have you dealt with...? What have you said when...?
MONDAY, JANUARY 20, 2020
“SEEING OUR WAY TO HOPE IN THE NEW YEAR”
A day on the calendar invites us to begin a new year with resolutions inspiring us to do and be better. For bereaved parents, grandparents and siblings, a new day means another day without our loved one. We begin to treasure memories thru tears. One minute or day at a time, yesterday’s memories will inspire today’s smiles, leading to tomorrow’s hope.
MONDAY, DECEMBER 16, 2019
“CANDLE LIGHTING PROGRAM”
Join us for our annual, special remembrance program which takes the place of our regular meeting. Sign-in begins at 6 pm.
Remembrance Candle Lighting
Monday, December 16, 2019
Social Hour begins at 6:00 p.m. Program begins 7:00 p.m.
Our chapter’s annual remembrance candle lighting program is Monday, December 16 at our regular meeting location.
St. Joseph Parish
8701 36th Ave. N
This event takes the place of our regular Chapter Meeting. Parents, siblings, grandparents, family
and friends are invited to join us.
The evening begins at 6:00 pm with sign-in at the front door; social time begins with refreshments, apple cider and coffee until 7:00 pm. A free-will offering will be appreciated to help offset the costs. Ornaments are provided (one per family) which we will personalize with your child’s name. You may hang it on the memory tree and afterwards, take home as a memento.
The remembrance candle lighting program begins at 7:00 p.m. with beautiful music as well as readings by our members, followed by lighting of candles in remembrance of our children, grandchildren, and siblings. The evening will conclude with our photo presentation.
To include your child/grandchild/sibling’s photograph in the slide show, please email a photograph to Steve at email@example.com. Send a high quality .jpg for best results. The DEADLINE is December 1. You DO NOT need to send us a photo of your child if you have already sent one in previous years; we still have it.
If you would like to participate in the program by reading a poem or prose, email Gloria at with your name, the title and author of your selection. The DEADLINE is December 1 to be included in the program.
This is our largest event honoring our children, grandchildren, and siblings. We would appreciate your help! If you are able, come early to set up or stay after to help clean up. You may donate your family’s favorite sweet or savory FINGER FOODS, fruit or veggie tray, crackers or cheese, cookies, bars, or apple cider. To lend a hand, sign up at our November 18 meeting or call Carol at 763-542-8528.
If we need to postpone due to severe weather, we will post a notice on our Chapter Facebook page and channel KARE11.
MONDAY, NOVEMBER 18, 2019
“HANDLING THE HOLIDAYS”
Holidays can magnify our loss. The work and pain of grief doesn’t take a vacation. Sometimes the anticipation is worse than the actual day. Seasoned grievers will share ideas, and together we’ll explore options.
MONDAY, OCTOBER 21, 2019
"MOVING FROM LOSS TO LEGACY"
Mitch Carmody, grief educator & bereaved dad, will inspire and encourage us to grieve our loss, reclaim the future and participate in life again. Let our loved one’s legacy live on through us and they will live forever.
Mitch’s son Kelly died from a brain tumor in 1987, and 2 years before that, Mitch’s twin sister and her two young sons died in a car accident.
As bereaved dad and sibling, Mitch has dedicated his life to serving the bereaved and helping those lost find hope, and those in the dark find light. A Grief Educator, Author, and Artist, Mitch is the author of Letters to My Son, he hosts his own radio show “Grief Chat,” and he created the YouTube channel, Mr. Heartlight which supports grievers around the world. All this for those who grieve and mourn; for those who have lost all hope, or feel stuck in their life; who seek to become an intentional survivor; and for those who want to leave a legacy of love.
With his insight, Mitch will encourage us to substantiate our child, grandchild, and sibling’s life by the way we live ours. This will let their legacy live on through us and they will live forever. This not only keeps our loved one alive, it heals our heart.
SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 29, 2019
"MINNEAPOLIS CHAPTER WALK TO REMEMBER"
Mark your calendar for Sunday, September 29 for our annual Chapter Walk to Remember. We walk to remember our children, siblings, and grandchildren who have died. Invite extended family and friends to join us.
This is our Chapter’s annual fund raiser. There is no fee to walk, but donations are appreciated. We are a recognized 501(c)(3) organization; all donations are tax deductible. Funds received are used to support our chapter’s many activities that assist families after the death of a child.
Join us at beautiful Bassett Creek Community Park in Crystal, (same park as last year). The official park address is 6001 32nd Ave. N, between Douglas Dr. N and Hwy 100. See our Walk location instructions below:
WALK LOCATION INSTRUCTIONS: IMPORTANT - Do NOT use the park entrance off 32nd Ave N. near the ballfield. Turn south off 32nd Ave N. onto Welcome Ave., then turn right, towards the parking area off Welcome Ave., near the playground. Meet at the picnic shelter near the parking lot, just down the asphalt trail.
Check-in begins at Noon; we’ll start the walk at 12:30. It’s just a quick, less than 1-mile jaunt around the pond on an asphalt trail, but we can go around as many times as you want.
Invite family and friends to join us for friendship and healing. It’s heart-warming to see a family wearing matching t-shirts; others brought balloons pinned to their shirts that “lifted” their shoulders. This scenic venue offers free parking, picnic shelters, disc golf, volleyball, a memorial garden with benches, a new playground area, dog park, and more.
We will carry the names of our children on bibs provided by the chapter. If you are unable to join us, please submit your child’s name and someone will be honored to carry your child with us on our walk (email your child’s name to firstname.lastname@example.org).
THE COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS MINNEAPOLIS 2019 WALK TO REMEMBER
is also a fundraiser to aid our mission. Participants are encouraged to
seek donations that will go to our Minneapolis Chapter to support outreach
and Chapter activities. The attached PDF file is a form to record donations
collected, then bring with you to the walk. Any amount helps!
MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 16, 2019
“MAKING ROOM IN OUR HOME & HEART”
Su-Yoon Ko is a professional organizer and feng shui practitioner whose work specializing in bereavement organizing naturally led her to becoming a certified End-of-Life Douala and Advance Care Planner.
“We want to help you honor and remember your loved one, while letting go of the need to hold on to every object, especially if they do not fit you or your life’s goals. I can’t imagine your loved one would want to burden you with something you don’t use or love.“
In her talk, Su-Yoon will explore different ways to define clutter, along with ideas on how to navigate the belongings of our deceased child, grandchild, or sibling. Keep in mind: There is no right or wrong for when or how to let things go; it depends on what is right for you. A good place to start...give yourself permission to let thing go.
MONDAY, AUGUST 19, 2019
Maggie Bauer, Certified Grief Recovery Specialist and Compassionate Friends sibling, will facilitate a sibling panel - Helping Parents Understand Surviving Siblings’ Grief. These siblings will share their feelings and answer questions in a quest to help parents and siblings to reopen the door to communication. Parents and grandparents will be able to ask questions that they only wish they could ask their surviving child(ren). Listening to a panel of siblings gives parents and grandparents an inside look at what their surviving child(ren) may be thinking and feeling.
Maggie will take a few moments to share highlights from the 42nd Compassionate Friends Conference in Philadelphia.
MONDAY, JULY 15, 2019 -
BALLOON RELEASE & PICNIC
PLEASE NOTE EARLIER START TIME OF 6:00 PM
Members and extended family are invited to join us for our annual Balloon Release and Picnic ceremony on Monday, July 15 at 6:00 pm. This event will take place at our regular meeting location and will be in lieu of our regular meeting. Dinner will be first, followed by the balloon release. This event will take place rain or shine. We will dine indoors.
Experience a release of grief as we send our balloons into the sky. It's a powerful symbolic image, lifting our pain as we watch the balloons dance out of sight.
The Chapter will provide all the food, all you need to bring is your beverage. A donation will be appreciated to help with expenses: suggested $5/person, 10 & under free.
We would appreciate a few volunteers to arrive early to help set up and/or stay after to help clean up.
If July is a Remembrance month for you, please bring a memento or photo to display on the Remembrance Table.
Information also available on the Events Page.
MONDAY, JUNE 17, 2019
“Bucket of Blooms” - We’ll pick a fresh flower from a bucket of blooms and share why that flower reminds us of our child. A favorite activity and an opportunity to share our child’s name.
MONDAY, MAY 20, 2019
“Mindfulness” - Awareness of our self and our surroundings helps us stay grounded in the present moment. Simple exercises of mindfulness increase awareness, acceptance, and expression of feelings which can help healyour heart and mind.
MONDAY, APRIL 15, 2019
“Rituals and Traditions” - We’ll discuss the purpose and importance of establishing rituals and traditions that we can use to remember our children. Many examples will be given and there will be time to share the rituals and traditions that have been a comfort to you on your grief journey.
MONDAY, MARCH 18, 2019
“Grief Within the Family” - Although the loss is shared, communication styles, family structure, and previous loss experienced are issues that may surround the death of a child, grandchild, and sibling across three generations.
MONDAY, FEBRUARY 18, 2019
“Do Men & Women Grieve Differently?" - Doer/thinker? Extrovert/introvert? Also, previous loss, personality, and relationship with the deceased all play into how we ex-press grief. Men and women will meet separately in small groups.
MONDAY, JANUARY 21, 2019 -
"Choice Points In Your Grief" - (Topic based on an article by bereaved parent, Darcie Sims, PhD.)
Early in grief, basic choices allow us to function in spite of being in a fog. As grief progresses, our choices become more complex. Can we choose to remember joy before pain; let go of sorrow to make room for love; remember their life, not just the death?
MONDAY, DECEMBER 17, 2018 -
"Candle Lighting Program" - Join us for our annual, special remembrance program which takes the place of our regular meeting. Sign-in begins at 6 pm. Please see Events tab for more information.
MONDAY, NOVEMBER 19, 2018 -
"Handling the Holidays" - Holidays can magnify our loss. The work and pain of grief doesn’t take a vacation. Sometimes the anticipation is worse than the actual day. Seasoned grievers will share ideas, and together we’ll explore options and make a plan to survive.
MONDAY, OCTOBER 15, 2018 -
"Collage - the Art of Healing" - Sue Reed Crouse, bereaved mom, artist and poet demonstrates how she honors her daughter's legacy through collage. (rescheduled from February)
***SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 23, 2018 SPECIAL EVENT***
"Walk to Remember" - Please see Events tab for details of this popular, special event for family and friends.
MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 17, 2018 -
"Angels Across the USA Tour Special Guest Speaker: Alan Pedersen" - Bereaved Dad and nationally recognized grief spokesperson, Alan will share his music and a message of encouragement and hope.
We are thrilled to announce we are hosting Alan Pedersen as our guest presenter at our September 17 meeting. We are honored to be one of his stops on his 2018 "Angels Across the USA" tour, appearing at over 100 cities.
Alan is the father of Ashley, who died in a car accident in 2001. Alan will share what he has learned on his own grief journey and from the thousands of other grievers who have shared their stories of loss, pain, hope, and healing with him. He combines his acclaimed music with a gentle mix of humor and straight-from-the-heart talk. This inspirational event will be a mixture of learning and laughing, with a mission to offer comfort, hope, and encouragement.
During the last few years, Alan put his presentation tour on hold as he was the Executive Director for The Compassionate Friends.
His music is very popular with bereaved people and organizations around the world. You may have heard some of his songs, as our Chapter has included Alan’s songs during our candle lighting and balloon release events.
Powerful songs about love and loss, and a down-to-earth message are the hallmark of an evening with Alan Pedersen! Anyone who has the opportunity to be a part of his “Angels Across the USA” tour will find a unique, healing, and memorable experience.
Bereaved parents, grandparents, family, friends, and siblings (age 14+) are invited to join us Monday, September 17, 2018, 7 p.m.-9 p.m. Please contact us for more information or with questions. or (612) 444-1301
MONDAY, AUGUST 20, 2018 -
"National Conference Highlights" - Members who attended the recent National Conference will reflect on their experiences from attending activities and workshops. What did they take away to give us hope and healing?